Why is it we base our self image and self worth on the opinions of others ad not on our own? Why does the opinions of others count more than our own? Well they don’t, our opinion and theirs is actually equal in the grand scheme but when it comes to self image and worth our opinion is the one that matters. It doesn’t matter what others think of you as long as you are happy with who and what you are. Every one of us tend to look at our flaws both physical and personality wise more so than our good traits. This seems to be associated with our desire to belong and to be like the people we are around. The secret is even the most confident and the extremely good looking person sees flaws in both their body and in their personality.
We focus too much on the superficial exterior beauty of our bodies and the illusion of being popular and or charismatic. When in fact we all have the same potential and the same feelings inside as each other. We let other peoples opinions and ideals of what beauty and popularity should be that we miss the truth. Each one of us is beautiful and each of us are unique and special. The way we look and or the financial status we hold has nothing to do with our true potential and our true self. There are those who go out of there way to bring torment and chaos to others so to give them the illusion of being above those they torment. If they succeed in making someone look lower than them they can live in the illusion of being better and above. Usually this will backfire in the end and they will find themselves alone and depressed. Beware of those kind of people they are so sad and angry inside they rarely escape the vicious cycle they have started.
Then there is the people out there that take blame for everything that happens to them and those around them without just cause or reason. They have so little self worth and self esteem they blame themselves for everything because they don’t think they deserve any better. Usually this type of person has the kindest of hearts and has been abused emotionally to the point they have no self-esteem. They usually pull themselves out of this in time but a few hold on to it through their life. They need to embrace who they are and love the kindness and compassion they have deep within.
We are all born equal and we all die equal, thus its common sense that we all are equal in life as well. The illusions of beauty, social status and popularity is a creation of the worlds mindset. The power that some seem to have over others is an illusion propagated by both the one with the so called power and those he controls. It takes the belief in something to make it a reality, even illusions have strength in reality if enough people believe in it. This is how cults grow and gain power over its followers. No matter what one says, you have the power and the ability to do almost anything you desire and no one but you can make you happy or content.
See yourself as the person you really are and make the choices to make that person who you want it to be not that others want. Find happiness in who you are and who you will become. Embrace the power of freewill god has given you and use it to make yourself what you see as the ideal you. Once you do, you will see how many will love you as who you are and how those that don’t will not matter to you or your life.
Well enough Rambling for now
Ray Barbier.
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